The Key To Being True to Yourself


Playing in Hydra, Greece

Playing in Hydra, Greece


When do we start putting ourselves and our dreams first?

When do we stop? Are we supposed to ever stop?

There isn’t a start date nor an expiration date. There isn’t a formula, an equation or any kind of line graph for that either.

We just simply have to be true to ourselves and do the navigating.

Screw you Maria! How the hell do we do that? (I heard you.)

Being true to ourselves can be the most exhilarating and liberating feeling in the world. And it can also be the most terrifying and the most painful.

I could write a book on the problem with You should that our society uses to drug our soul….to keep our spirit stagnant, to be a follower, to take orders, to do as everyone else in autopilot mode.

But today’s not the day for that.

In the last week something jumped out at me in three conversations I had with three people from different ages and backgrounds.

Your body speaks to you. How do you feel in certain circumstances?

Your body’s signals are huge indicators on whether you’re being true to yourself.

Friend #1 was explaining how he really likes this girl and they have a lot of fun together. But when it came to talking about them in a relationship, it felt heavy. His whole body felt like there was a weight on it. Since he’s trying to get his business off the ground, he now recognizes that’s his first priority.

Friend #2 spent last year in Australia and was supposed to go back recently. But family obligations are keeping him here for the time being. He was so anxious about not returning that he lost weight and got skinny. He talks about his plan of staying here in one way. When he talks about Australia it’s totally different. His body becomes animated, his eyes light up and he has so much energy. My wish for him is that he does everything he can to fulfill his family obligations in the next few months, while also honoring himself and his dreams.

Friend #3 used the word depleted. He gives so much of himself to others every single day that he deprives himself of self-care and many of his own wishes. Now 42 years old, he recognizes that he hasn’t done the traveling he’s always longed to do. Luckily, this highly self-aware man is waiting to pick up his new passport any day and is putting trips into his 2017 calendar.

Your body doesn’t lie. It tells you everything you need to know to navigate through the life that’s meant to be yours.

If you’re trying to make a decision, no matter how big or small, pay attention to what your body does when considering the options.

How does your body feel when you’re processing a new idea?

How does your body feel when you’re talking about a particular topic?

Does it feel heavy or light? Does your chest feel constricted or expanded? What do you feel in your stomach? Is your heart racing or are you relaxed?

Our bodies are constantly talking to us. We need to get out of our heads and in tuned with our bodies.


If this is news to you, I encourage you to start paying attention. And please, for the love of God, stop putting that processed shit food into your body! A body full of crap and sugar will make it harder for you to listen.

And put the social media away too. Whether you realize it or not, we often reach for our phones to check social media to distract ourselves from uncomfortable emotions we’re experiencing for any given reason. We’ve become numbing addicts.

Being true to ourselves is our greatest obligation in life, and it can be a daunting responsibility. The messages our bodies give us are one of the greatest resources we have in fulfilling this obligation.

We all have a body. Take good care of it. And listen up.